Life's a lot easier if you don't take shit so seriously

Forgive the French. A friend of mine used to say that a lot back in the day and growing up it's just stuck with me. I realize in the time I suppose it's because of her character, she was bubbly, giggly.. a genuinely happy person. Literally all the time. And that philosophy, that attitude seemed to deliver to her usual state of happiness when confronted with otherwise cloudy darker patches. But enough about her.  

Let's come to the apparent dark patches. Life is all too often assumed to be a pursuit of happiness, or at least some version of it. Here's my question, or set of questions at least... what is happiness? Are we all entitled to it by virtue if pursuing it? Do we all deserve it?

Here's where it goes darker. I've always believed that for one to exist, there must be a polar opposite... light-dark, fast-slow, intelligent-dumb, necessary-unnecessary... but then it struck me. These constructs are all too definite, all too absolute... and human nature by very definition does not allow that.  So I looked closer.

What if... just what if, happiness and say sadness, misery or whatever while being the opposites that we understand.. what if they independently existed in human nature? What if we had a concept where we appreciated more that a human being is more in their "element" when they pick a certain condition? What if I was genuinely satisfied with a constant state of misery, feeling the world is against me, feeling those who have wronged me will never in my lifetime deserve my forgiveness? By all prescriptions I would never be a happy man... but what if because the only element of being I was ever comfortable with was sorrow, bitterness, anger and all that? Look at "emo" kids... they seem so content with their apparent deranged view of the world. But who is to say your pursuit of the apparent positive is where all your answers lie? Have you never thought that some people are just genuinely ok in the negative? The apparent negative? And who decides that anyway?

Just some thoughts, back to the sucky real world. Bleh.